Hot Tips On Flirting Online

"These tips on flirting helped me catch more attention from online guys!"

So you wanna be a better flirt? Need tips on flirting, techniques and primers? This article is the complete guide for mastering the art of online flirting.

Flirting is a very effective way to meet people, especially online. Whether you are writing an online dating profile, emailing someone or just chatting, flirtation can be the key to success.

It's easy to feel embarrassed or shy about flirting, even when you're using an online dating service. Fear of rejection can be strong, and it's easy to talk yourself out of sending even a casual message. Don't withdraw your wish to find love just because you're shy.

Flirting really is just a skill like anything else! Yes, a skill. And all you have to do to obtain this skill is to learn and practice a few techniques. I learned it and you can too. Once you know the basic moves, your personal instincts will turn this skill into a fine art, let's get started:

Tips on Flirting - #1

• FIRST THINGS FIRST - You Are Beautiful – It's Time to Raise Your Self-Esteem!

Before we get into tips on flirting, it's important to raise your self-esteem. Research has shown that many women have a poor body image, and often underestimate their attractiveness. Some recent studies indicate, for example, that up to 80% of adult women believe that they are too fat, and try to achieve a figure that is around two sizes smaller than the body-size men find most desirable. Dear ladies, the odds are that you are more attractive than you think , so when browsing in your dating service site try flirting with some better looking men than you usually approach. Men generally tend to be less critical of their own physical appearance than women. This is partly because standards of beauty for males are much less rigid than for females and a wider variety of shapes and features are considered attractive.

 

Tips on Flirting - #2

 

• Take the Time to Carefully Observe Men's Profiles

Take the time to examine men's profiles— this means looking at something other than his picture. Pick out some features that make this guy appealing to you. Find out what his interests, his hobbies, his ideology on life; it is reasonable to assume that if you find this specific guy appealing there might be things in common between both of you – highlight them. Then, write about those topics in your correspondence. Mentioning a common interest not only shows that you actually looked at the person's profile, but it also sets up a topic for continued discussion— and a possible activity for a first date!

 

Tips on Flirting - #3

 

• Use Your Sense of Humor

Humor is Sexy! And always ranks high on every woman's list of desirable features in a potential mate, but its surprising how rarely people present these features. Take the time to come up with a charming line that's tailored to the person you're writing. Try gently joking about a shared interest—"I'm glad to find out that I'm not the only one crazy enough to buy a whole disk just for one song"—or bringing up a funny story from your past—"I see you're big on cooking. The last time I tried to cook, my neighbors invited the fire department... Think you can help me improve?" Relate the joke to the other member's profile and you'll probably be getting a fun, flirty response in seconds.

Tips on Flirting - #4

 

• Give Sincere Compliments

The trick with giving out compliments is to be SPECIFIC and SINCERE. "You're pretty" is a compliment, sure, but it's a bit of a cliché and not a very memorable one. "Your lips are better than Brad Pitt's," will not very likely to be true, but is a much better and more specific compliment. "I can hear the music beneath your words when reading your profile; I bet you write beautiful songs, Will you send me one of your songs…?" This can be an unforgettable compliment.

One more thing to remember is that compliments don't have to be based only on appearance! Showing appreciation for features in a profile is likely to get you points with the guy who went to the trouble of creating a perfect self-description just for you. Give out sincere compliments; avoid throwing phony expressions (which are usually noticed and most often doesn't work).

Compliment men on an unusual combination of characteristics: "I've never known any lawyers who also write songs— how'd you get to be so unique?" Specificity is key, as is actually complimenting the person. And please ladies, avoid these sentences: "You're better-looking than my ex" – this is not the right phrase for kicking off a new relationship.

 

Tips on Flirting - #5

• Keep the Mysteriousness

Keeping things mysterious is guaranteed to be enticing.

Providing your men with all they want to know about you right in the first correspondences looks desperate and leaves you with nothing to talk about in subsequent communication. Mention a bit about yourself and leave the intimate details for the time you'll meet with him. This will create tension between the two of you and will make him use his imagination…

Don't of course lie to create mystery, just don't give out so much information.

Tips on Flirting - #6

 

• Show Your Interest - Ask Him Questions

A well-phrased question provides the perfect flirting sign for your potential men. Don't get too personal yet, don't be too general, either. "What are you wearing?" paints you as a stalker, while "What's your favorite color?" is just plain dull. "What color do you feel today?" – is unique, artistic and strikes a good balance between overbearing and boring.

Ask him about his interests but instead of asking the 'every day' questions like: "where do you work?" you can try: "Do you like what you're doing in life?" or "What are your dreams?" "What makes you laugh?", "What makes you cry?", "What scares you?", "What would you do if we got stuck in a snow storm in the mountains?"

Try asking questions that will help you get to know the spirit and essence of the guy, not only his daily routines.

 

Tips on Flirting #7

• Follow Up

Once you've found a man you're interested to know and that you've started corresponding with, you're not off the hook. When you send him an email you'll have to wait for that response - respond soon enough to be noticed and remembered— but not so soon you seem desperate.

Answer 3 minutes later and you'll look like a stalker; two weeks later and you'll have been forgotten. You should find the right balance between them (around two hours to two days can be good).

Tips on Flirting #8

 

• Use Online Flirting Codes

In addition to using the site design, many online daters have mastered the art of flirting by using certain codes called online Chatiquette. These codes are slang language of the Internet and its manners. In addition to saving you time, you can use these codes to add a little flirtation into the conversation.

Examples: CUL8R means See you later ; F2F means face to face ; RU OK? means Are You Okay ? and there is much more). It's Easy to remember and a great way to flirt.

For more important tips on flirting and online chatting - check out my Chatiquette article (gives you all the right etiquette of online chatting).

Just something to keep in mind - keep the use of emoticons to a minimum (all those types of happy/sad/mad/etc. faces). They get irritating or can be misread by people who don't know you.

Also, it's best not to give one-word answers. There's nothing more annoying than trying to have a chat conversation and just getting back a one word answer or a bunch of "LOL"s, "HeHe"s, and "HaHa"s.

Tips on Flirting #8

 

• Logging Out With A Hint

Finally, when you log out for the day, leave a slightly suggestive sign off. For example, most people usually write something such as, "Talk to you later" or "Have a good night." Why not take it one-step further and sign off with "It was nice talking to you I really enjoyed it" or "Wish we could say good night in person".

 

 

Remember, a thin line runs between flirting and looking desperate. The point is to make the other person interest in you. Avoid being cynical and bitter, talking too much about your EX's, or Bla-Bla'ing too much. Make yourself look good— but not perfect; make people comfortable with communicating with you and most important – express interest by asking lots of questions.

Online flirting can be easy. Try it and you'll see the great things that can happen!

 

Good luck,