Rules Of Dating On How Far To Go On A First Date
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You’re excited about your first date but you don't know the rules of dating on how far to go physically and intimately? Is it better to enable intimate contact or should you stay slightly far-off? Should you tell him intimate details about yourself or should you wait to get to know him better? To know how far to go on a first date.. these rules of dating are for you!
First impressions count. A lot. I admit. Every little thing makes a difference in first dates… What should I tell him about myself? How should I dress? Where shall we go? Who shall pay? How does he smell?
But... what about intimacy? What are the rules of dating on how far we should go with our first date? Mainly, if we like the guy, what price should we pay just to get that second date…?
So you've had an amazing evening with your date and hit it off to a great start. Now it’s the time to say goodnight, what do you do?
Smile? Give him a hug? Good night kiss…or maybe ask him in and have passionate sex?!
The rules of dating on how far we should go with a man on a first date depends on a few factors:
How do we know the guy? Is it from a dating site? Is it matchmaking? Friend of my friends/family? How much we want this guy seriously? How much we want to be intimate with this guy? How much we know about this guy…?
Security first!
Before and above all, it is highly important to remember your safety before the first date. There are important safety precautions we should know before we meet the guy, like for example: Googling him, running a background check on the guy. Not giving any personal information (like address, phone number, etc.). Revisit subjects already discussed to see if the man is lying. Listen carefully to your gut instinct, etc. It’s also best not to drink too much on a first date, or anything that can make you tipsy, you want to be aware of your actions. Don't skip this issue it is highly important. Click here to read more safety rules of dating.
If you already know these precautions, here is what you need to consider:
From whom/where you know your date. If you know the guy from friends or family that you trust, than you can be more loose since you know a lot more about him. But if you're not that familiar with your date and you've met him through an online dating site then maybe it's a good idea to keep that date and perhaps several upcoming dates limited in the intimacy category.
How serious does it look?
If the date turns out to be a significant one, and you are genuinely interested in forming a long-lasting relationship with the guy, show some restraint and don't sleep with him on the first date! Moreover, I advise you not to go any further than a kiss.
Why?
To leave behind a taste for more; to obtain the sexual tension. to make him (and yourself) more passionate to meet again. There is a BIG secret in postponing satisfactions. Don't hurry anywhere, leave some details for the imagination, each date get a little closer, get to know each other before jumping into bed; it will also make the sex better (I assure you!). It is very similar to having a great meal in our favorite restaurant. If the dish will come out and we eat it slowly, with awareness, we will probably enjoy every bite of it. But if we jump on it and eat it as fast as we can in big bites we will probably have a stomachache or nausea within a few minutes and the meal will probably not be remembered as a delectable experience.
Therefore, I warmly suggest taking time with becoming intimate on the first date. You will not regret - I promise you. Leaving an unreachable space between you and him is going to keep him just around the corner, don't worry.
Remember the baseball rules of dating? (Huh?), Ya - First base, Second base, Third Base, and Take-Me-Home Base! So we all know that 'home' base is all-the-way, and third base is just short from there (oral sex, dry sex with clothes on, etc.).
Second base and first base are more suitable for the first date, so stick to them! (hand-holding, kissing, hugging, flirting, sitting real-close to eachother, even a little flirty kick on the butt ;-).
If we've been intimate online (even before the first date), does that mean there's an expectation of sex on the first date?
It again, depends. Allow yourself to decide throughout the date; only when you meet the guy face to face. Don't be shy not to do anything even though you've made a long way online. Anyone who has been around online dating for a while should understand how the anonymity of the situation may make folks a little more open than they would normally be. So in this case I advise you to listen to your instincts.
What if I'm not sure about the guy but I'm attracted to him? Should I go all the way?
If you're not seeing any chance or potential in becoming serious with this guy and you just want to have some fun than I suggest practicing SAFE sex… and take care of yourselves, please.
If he really wants to have Sex and I find him very nice but I don't want to have sex with him on the first date …what should I do / say?
In this case ladies, the rules of dating are really clear, Do Not Have Sex! Be assertive and very clear. Say to him you really enjoyed going out with him but you're not going to have sex with him on the first date and you'd appreciate if he'll stop pressuring in this direction. Be honest and direct yet imply you would really love to meet him once more. And don't worry; if he doesn’t call again than he's definitely not your guy and he was probably just after a one night stand.
Rules of dating: Women Vs. Men
Most women are very romantic creatures - when we share our bodies, we bare our souls. What many women fail to understand is that, for some men, sex is just an act of satisfaction, and that sexual attraction doesn't mean he likes you.
Men may hate me for saying it, but, I advise woman to think this over carefully on how far to go on a first date, as many men will never ever call back if the date goes "all the way"...
Strange, and sad, but true...
Remember, Just listen to that little voice in the back of your mind; don't let spur of the moment emotions take over you and your dating will come out alright regardless of how far you may or may not go.
Remember these important rules of dating, have fun, and most of all Be Safe,
