10 Golden Steps When Writing Attractive Online Dating Profiles
"These online profile tips helped me write a really great profile!"
"I've seen tons of online dating profiles. But, when I saw Caroline's profile I noticed that she had all of the things I was looking for. Her beautiful smile also really drew me in, so I began communicating with her” (Aaron and Caroline were engaged on March 28, 2006) |
The
key to
online dating success is an excellent profile; one that
presents you in your best light while giving admirers a glimpse of what
it'll take to win your heart.
In Cyberspace, you ARE what you WRITE. Well-written online dating profiles won't be missed! So, put on your hard hat gals... you're entering the construction phase of your online dating profiles!
You can click on the 10 steps individually or scroll down and read them from first to last.
2) Browse
3) Review Your Ideal Love Match
7) Writing Tips (to help you stand out from the crowd)
10) Review Profile and Place Ad
I have reconstructed different online dating profiles and have analyzed them as to why I think they do and don't succeed. I took examples from different demographics— women from different ages and places, to illustrate that as long as a person writes with a distinct voice (as the content may vary), the result will still be positive. What works for one person does not necessarily work for another, but the general principles remain the same.
This 'Online Dating Profiles Guide' will help you become familiar with online dating profiles that work (and don't work…), and will lead you step-by-step with writing your knock-out ad.
"Writing my profile was like a cross between going on a first date and writing a personal essay (and way more fun than either of them)" - Laurie S. from NY |
In order to create online dating profiles you will need:
• A Computer connected to the Net
• Time
• A pen and paper
• Your Ideal Scene
• Positive thinking
- STEP 1: Select Your Site
Each dating site has its own layout of online dating profiles. Before starting to fill out lots of profiles in different sites I suggest you select the right site for you.
If you are looking to maximize on replies A Theme-Based Content dating Site is a very important thing to find. These dating sites contain people who share dreams, traits, beliefs, and likes in common. Each dating site focuses upon a single topic that is related to all members (for example: Jewish, lesbian, vegetarians, senior etc.).
Finding your 'dating niche site' will raise your chances for finding the right man!
Learn more on How to find YOUR Internet Online Dating Service.
- STEP 2: Browse
You've got yourselves a site, excellent! The next thing to do is to check out the personals already on your chosen site. What grabs your attention? What bores you? What touches your heart? Pick up all the pointers you can from other people's online dating profiles before starting to write your own.
Look at other women’s usernames, headlines, and what they write about themselves in the first few sentences. This doesn't mean to write as other women write, it's just to get an idea as to what you think is attractive and unattractive, and to give you a direction of what and how you want to write.
- STEP 3: Review your Ideal Scene
Writing your Ideal Scene will extremely help you when writing your profile. Have your Ideal Scene by you when you start writing your profile. Review it and re-write it so that it fits the format of your profile ad. This can quintuple your odds of attracting the most suitable partner you want for your lives.
- STEP 4: Safety First!
Women have to take certain precautions when writing their online dating profiles, to insure safety and privacy. Be cautious about giving out too much personal information, such as your last name, your phone number at home or at work, or the neighborhood in which you live.
Make sure you have gotten to know someone well - that you have talked to him or her long enough (and enough times) to feel it is safe - before you give out any such information. I highly suggest reading my pre-online dating safety article before starting to write your profile.
- STEP 5: Create the Best Username
Interesting and unique usernames will almost certainly make a first good impression. Every word counts in your opener, including your username.
On some sites this is more
noticeable than your headline so give it
some careful consideration; what does it say about you? Is it a
nickname you had from high school? Does it reflect your hobbies?
People will make assumptions from the small amount written in your username, so be sure you have already considered what they might be!
Save Ethel2484 for your office computer, your dating username should be anonymous yet descriptive. In online dating profiles, these little words count!
- STEP 6: Write a Creative Headline for your Profile
Deciding on your online dating headline can be critical to getting your profile read. The catchier your headline is, the bigger 'catches' you'll get!
I've written a whole seperate page about writing your online dating profiles headline, check it out!
- STEP 7: Writing Tips to Help You Stand Out from the Crowd
This step is the most important step of them all!
You don't have to be Shakespeare to stand out... you just need the right online dating guidance to guide with what to write, how to write, how long should it be, and many many more great tips to help you out.
I have created a WHOLE page of online dating profile tips to help you write a profile that will surely stand out!
After reading that, check out out more writing tips to help you emphasize your uniqueness.
- STEP 8: No pix, no picks! That's how it's played.
If you take no other part of my advice, take this. If you want to be successful at this online dating thing, post a good, recent, smiling photo of yourself.
Online dating profiles with photos generate 80 percent more responses, according to site managers.
Posting a photo on the opener is a must.
I have written a whole article about posting online dating photos to get the full guidance on this important subject.
- STEP 9: Sell-Line for Online Dating Profiles
After you've created a warm, interesting picture of yourself and posted an equally wonderful photo, it's time to secure the click. The 9th step is a simple, very effective sales strategy that will distinguish you from the crowd.
Offer what marketers call the value proposition. What's 'in it for them'? What can you promise that will make him click on you and not the competition? Note how well these sell-lines state the value proposition and make the case for a future relationship:"I will be tender yet passionate, sexy yet gentle. I will inspire you, listen to you. I will be your dream lover and your best friend." "I will mesmerize you with my big innocent eyes. I'll send a thrill through your body with my warm innocent hands. I'm ready to travel even to the Moon to meet my match"
- STEP 10: Review Your Profile and Place Your Ad
Once it is written take a short break. Going back to your ad with fresh eyes (even a day later) will give a new perspective. Read it through several times, tweaking where necessary. After you've finished give it to 2-3 friends to read and say what they think.
When you are happy with your work, submit the ad and sit back as the offers will most likely come rolling in. Don't be afraid to tweak, erase, re-write, and make your words more precise until you feel you've nailed it down.
Online dating profiles can be lots of fun to write. If you have fun writing it, the reader will likely have fun reading it!
Cheers,
