Online Dating Profile Tips For An Attractive Online Profile!
"These online dating profile tips helped me pull in the right kind of men!"
"Coach, I need some online dating profile tips, FAST! I signed up for a couple of matchmaking sites and spent lots of time fiddling with my profile, but I still don't get many emails and have only been out on two or three dates. How can I make my profile more appealing to men?" |
Do you feel the same?
Here are the Most Important profile
tips (Exclusively for women!) to help you send your sparks flying over
the DSL!
* Create an Honest Profile
Out
of all the online dating profile tips you'll find in this article this
is the most important
advice I can give you- Be
honest. Many different dating profiles
will ask you to include some pretty personal information. If you are 5
foot 2, have purple hair, never exercise, love Dolly Parton, adore
puppies, addicted to American idol and definitely want children then
Say So!
Some online dating profiles require you to
disclose
height, weight, and age right up front. There's no reason to lie about
your age. Think about it, why compromise your credibility when so many
online searchers will treasure the years you're trying to hide?
Although
there are very small exceptions: A close friend for example is almost
60 (she looks like she’s 40 and has the energy of a 20-year
old).
She was weary of writing her real age because she thought men would
judge her just by age. She lowered her age by a few years and then men
started writing to her. Also, once she met the guy, she told him
straight up what her real age is. This is an exceptional example.
Remember, only with honesty can you start a clean long-living
relationship.
Furthermore, clever explanations and
apologies
will not earn you forgiveness if you've wasted someone's time by
misrepresenting yourself. When the 45-something football player you
agreed to meet turned out to be 68 and married, the sweet bouquet he
will bring won't keep you from leaving soon after a mannered handshake,
right?
There's also no reason to lie about your
weight. Maybe
you won't attract the guy who wants a perfect size six. Don't worry
about him. You don't need to appeal to everyone. Set your sights on the
person you really want to meet, someone who will love you for who you
really are. Get his attention by describing yourself in flattering
terms, such as BBW (big, beautiful woman), voluptuous, or 'sensuous
size 14'.
When Jeff linked to Stephanie, now his
wife, "we were
both toting some extra pounds," he says. "That's called, 'you get older
and you put on weight.' It's just life."
*
Keep it Short
Ideal
online dating profiles should be neither too broad nor too narrow. Keep
it short. This descriptive paragraph needs to convey the aura of who
you are. Too little information is as bad as too much. Imagine you are
meeting someone for the first time… what would you tell them
about yourself if you already wrote you're life-biography novel in your
profile? You only get one chance to make a good first impression! So
write a short, honest and simple ad!
Remember, the
ultimate goal
of your online profile is to get the right men click. Your
content should give men-visitors a confident feeling that you are
indeed the woman you write about. "Right Words" get that job done!
*
Avoid Clichés
Be
bold, cheeky and confident! You may want the same as most women in the
world but find a unique way to say it. One of the important online
dating profile tips... is avoiding clichés. You'll
see clichés
on most online profiles, along the lines of 'Likes long walks on
the beach and candlelit dinners'.
If you still want
to be
romantic (and you do like 'long walks on the beach and candlelit
dinners'…) try saying it in a more creative way, like "I
like to
walk in warm summer evenings under the moon", which would be just a bit
less of a cliché (taking the same idea and writing it in a
new
and original way).
Here are some more profile tips on emphasizing your uniqueness.
*
Use Colorful Language and Humor
Instead
of "tall,"
how about saying you're "long-legged"? 'Long-Legged' creates a more
sensual mental picture.
Instead of "brown hair with
highlights," don't you think it would be more fun to meet a "nearly
blond dazzler"?
Word-plays
can work (but not if you sound like a kindergarten
teacher…).
The better world-plays are wittier, ex: "I'm not looking for mister
Perfect. Nobody's perfect. I'm just looking for someone who's Perfect
for Me".
You can also use a headline and first few
sentences
that are silly and people know aren't for real. For ex: "You must like
animals… my 500lb lion", Or "Retired Sumo, Ex-Mud Wrestler,
and
used to tame Lions in the Sahara".
A big no-no for
online profiles is saying something like "I'm a 24-year-old with a good
sense
of humor HaHa". That 'HaHa' or 'LOL' doesn't make you humoristic or
funny. Instead of saying you're funny and witty, BE funny and witty
with what you write.
*
Focus on your Positive Points
Don't
dwell in the negative. Concentrate on what you want, not what you
don’t. What you like and love rather than what you hate. What
is
good about your life rather than what’s bad. People are
attracted
to positive people Would you respond to this ad?:"I'm tired of staying
at home waiting for Mr. Right to knock at my door, and I hate those
singles bars. All my friends are married, and I feel like the third
wheel. I need a life."Or: "I haven't worked in a while because I was
badly injured when I fell down a flight of stairs. While I was
recovering, I had to cope with a divorce. But now I'm ready for someone
who can make me smile again."
No man in his right
mind would
want to shoulder that kind of burden. Guys are not online to do a
rescue mission. This is one of those online dating profile tips you
should really consider... it's always best to be
positive and light, and even if life is hard for you, it's best to be
in a positive state of mind, ex: "The glass is always half full even in
the hard knocks of life", or "When life throws a curve ball, I
generally find a way to make the best of it."
*
Put Aside Defensiveness
Defensiveness
is another form of negativity. There's no need to feel bashful or
ashamed about looking for a date online. Millions of smart, attractive
people (including the men who'll be scanning your profile) have made
cyber-dating a socially acceptable option. Think about it this way, if
you (a nice and loving person) are online looking for a date, why
wouldn't there be a lot more like you?!
Congratulate
yourself
that you're healthy, confident, and savvy enough to take control of
finding a loving relationship. Don't waste time and valuable words on
apologies and being defensive, ex: "I can't believe I'm doing this, how
embarrassing!!" "Well, I've never done this before and I'm not very
good at it, but here goes." "My mother talked me into this, and I have
no idea what I'm doing."
*
Share your Interests
The
way you spend your leisure time is one of the best indicators of your
personality and values. But, talking about your hobbies or interests,
without exposing the person that you are, is a non effective ad and
looks like this: "Attractive, funny, bold, loving, petite, youthful,
enjoys outdoors, walks, water, classical and country music, sports,
dining out, dancing, and theater, balanced with quiet times. Seeks
single male."
The major mistake in this ad is that it seems more like a grocery list than a real human being. Its focus is on the outside rather than on the inside of them. It's like that first date where we show our socially correct persona, and are afraid to expose the layers of the individual we are.
Many ads seem to take this same direction. When writing your own personal ad, take the time to write one that expresses who you are, as an individual, your unique qualities and gifts. Offer specific-telling details.
This
is one of those online dating profile tips most people don't know about!
Most
adults
enjoy dinner, movies, music, and travel. It's the distinguishing detail
that will catch the eye of your compatible partner. If nothing tastes
better to you than a cold beer and a hot dog at the ballpark, say so
(boy, will you get an e-mail!). If you've seen every single Steven
Spielberg movie, let the other Spielberg fans know. Tout your
uniqueness and expertise with specifics.
And don't
forget: online dating profiles don't have to be a novel: keep it
simple, short, honest, and carefree.
*
Appeal to your Target Audience
One
of the fundamental rules in sales and marketing is to know to whom
you're selling. In this instance, your goal is to appeal to a member of
the opposite sex. The key word here is 'opposite'. My gorgeous friend
Mira wondered why she wasn't getting any e-mails. Here's the line from
her opening profile that killed her chances: "My favorite activity is
shopping!!! I love clothes." This would be a great hook if she were
hoping to land a woman friend. But in my experience, if you give a man
a choice between shopping and going to a ballgame, the latter has a
better chance of winning (the exception, of course, would be helping a
woman pick out a bathing suit -- lots of male volunteers there).
Too
much domesticity can also turn off men. You're not applying for the job
of cook, maid, or nanny. Clean out language that classifies you as a
housebound maid. Check, for example, that your list of activities
includes more than cooking, cleaning, needlepoint, and yard sales. You
want to appear dynamic in a number of spheres.
*
Keep the First Impression Focused on You
No
distractions even lovable ones, just yet. Save the introduction to your
family for the face-to-face date. Here's how bringing up the family too
early can backfire: If you write— "I have four daughters and
a
dog that are the love of my life", He might think— "I'll
never
come first". If you write— "Here's a photo of me with my
beloved
husband who passed away 7 years ago", He might think— "He
looks
better than me? I don't have a chance".
*
Check the Spelling and the Grammar!
Bad
spelling and grammar in online dating profiles are a turn off and there
is no excuse with word processors, so make sure you check your profile.
If you misspell things or use incorrect grammar, then people may make
assumptions about your intelligence and education, rightly or wrongly!
No one is put off by good spelling and grammar so why take the chance?
What and how you write is what represents you, WRITE IT RIGHT!
