Male Flirting Signals
"Male flirting signals were much easier to identify after reading this article!"
"Hey Coach, I don't know how to recognize male flirting signals. There's a guy at my work that I've been noticing. He's been giving me very warm, genuine smiles and sometimes looks straight into my eyes. Is he flirting with me?!" |
Well Ladies, with all my respect to men... I don't think you'll have any problems identifying male flirting signals any more after reading this article. Learning to decode what his nonverbal communication truly means is an invaluable asset in the game of love.
Only 7% of communication is verbal communication; 38% depends on our intonation, or the sound of our voice and the largest chunk of communication is body language, which takes up the remaining 55%. These statistics show that a person who knows how to read and decode body language signs and knows how to recognize male flirting signals has bigger chances drawing in love!
There he is, the guy you just can't take your eyes off of. He's standing in front of you at the local starbucks, you both are waiting for your coffee. Your eyes meet his, a quick glimpse, and then it's back to the other side. You feel confused. Was he giving you a signal?
If the guy is interested in you, he'll make the following moves:
Just like in the animal world, males tend to “spruce up” when they spot a female they are interested in. When a man spots an attractive female, he may automatically adjust his tie, smooth his collar or brush his shoulder.
Other common signs of sprucing up involve fixing his hair or rearranging his shirt, cuff links, and clothing. He may check his teeth or automatically touch his throat.
He wants to look as good as he can before he approaches you. Therefore ladies, you should take any of the above male flirting signals as a very positive sign!
A man who flirts with you will also do things that will make him look macho. Therefore, he'll probably straighten up and may place his hands on his hips or flex his muscles to subconsciously make himself appear bigger. This gesture says “Notice me. I’m the man around here and I’m ready to get involved!” A man may also pull in his stomach, puff up his chest or stand a little taller.
His next move will be with his eyes. Men who are interested will usually hold their gaze for a little longer than usual. They may also perform what is called the “triangular formulation” with their eyes. This involves looking eye to eye, then down to a woman’s mouth and chin, down to the rest of her body and back up to her eyes again. And you thought geometry was boring! ;-)
If a man throws you a few lingering glances, followed with a flirtatious grin, you definitely know he’s interested.
Although if you're in front of the intellectual-gentle type, the above would be just the opposite: he can't make a lot of eye contact, he might stammer a lot, seems shy and a bit nervous with his words.
A vital aspect of the physical nature of romance is collaboration. Advance a little bit towards the guy, let him know you're interested but don't go all the way, just a small gesture will be enough. This not only signals your own interest, but also serves to keep his.
We've all heard the wisdom: "The eyes are the windows to the soul". If he's interested in you, he'll focus on you with those piercing peepers and hold it. Return his romantic gaze with a quiet smile and let him know that you are interested. He'll most likely be at your side in no time.
Watch his body. If his body is pointing in your direction he's probably interested. Males generally put their body in the direction of the woman they like to give out the information that they are attracted to the particular woman.
Nothing gets your attention like someone moving to stand or sit close to you right? If the guy is coming toward you, then he'll want to stand near you. Be aware of how close he approaches. If he's close, it's one of those huge male flirting signals. If he comes close, know that he has already established (in his own mind) that he is attracted. He now wants to get to know you more.
When he opens his mouth and starts talking he'll be very interested in you. He'll be interested in everything you say or do; even things that men are not usually interested in (shopping, cooking, cleaning, romantic movies, etc). This is their way to say "I'm connected to my feminine side" and it's one of those classic male flirting signals – he doesn't talk too much about himself and tries to listen to you with full attention. It's that simple.
Men are very in touch with their sense of humor (women often complain that men never take anything seriously, right?), so if he's sending some hearty laughter your way, it's a good bet he's looking at you as potential date. Look for signs like unexplained laughter, jokes, wittiness, charming remarks, sweaty palms and fidgeting. Guys always want to be in control of their emotions, if he has trouble doing that around you, it's most likely because you make him nervous and excited. If you're interested in him, flirt a little back and help him to relax.
He'll also want to take every opportunity to touch you. Maybe it's your arm, your leg, your knee — it doesn't matter, as long as his presence is physical and affectionate. It's his way of letting you know he likes you.
When a man is interested in a woman, he will often find an excuse to touch her. He may put a hand on her shoulder or knee, tickle her playfully or pat her on the back. Some men may even feel a woman’s blouse (to "find out" what type of fabric it is), jacket or shoulder.
He may come up with a quick excuse such as “your blouse looked so soft I just had to feel it” or “I was just removing a piece of lint from your dress”.
He may even “accidentally” bump into you while casually passing by. This is his way of showing you he is attracted to you. One of those 'in-your-face' male flirting signals, is if he offers you his jacket or coat (if he thinks you are cold). This is a bold move of ownership, he's offering to put something of his on you!
Ladies, you know better! Take all of these as very positive male flirting signals that things are going well! The only thing is to be cautious if you feel he's passing any red lines. For your safety, find out the difference between male flirting signals versus sexual harassment.
Be aware to the fact that men and women often have very different ways of flirting through body language so don't expect him to flirt the same way you do!
Men and women have very different brain chemistries: we are verbal; they are not. They are driven by visual and physical desires, while we are guided by emotions. Women are taught to rationally express their feelings and feel no shame in crying, and men punch things. He has his way and it's very easy to observe after you know more about male flirting signals.
So it's time to go and get him! Open your eyes and start being aware of those flirting signals!
Good luck ladies,
