How To Be Happy
"How to be happy by listening to the melody of our hearts! "
"I don't know how to be happy without true love (I'm tired of searching for it!). I've tried everything you can imagine. I've read so many articles, tips, online dating sites, blind dates, matchmaking (by my mother!), nothing works! WHERE IS HE?! Does he exist?!" |
So you haven't found true love yet? Or maybe you're in a relationship but it isn't what you thought it would be?
Do you really want to make a change? Do you want to quadruple your chances in drawing 'mr. right' nearer to you? You bet! What I have written in this article can really work, it has helped me find my soul mate and many others around me. Learn how to be happy with yourselves before finding true love.
So where is the secret? You got it... it's lying inside each and every one of us. Does that sound like a cliche? To cheesy for you? Well let me tell you, if you are looking to find true love, it's first and foremost important to love yourself, embrace your passions and dreams; don't wait along for a relationship to make you happy, it's first important to learn how to be happy inside of yourselves.
Many of us think that the only way we will feel good and learn how to be happy in life is if we find true love. People put their happiness on hold because they think that only if they are in a relationship, only if they love and are loved, that's the only way they will be happy. You must understand, this is not a lie, I am sure you will be very happy when finding true love, but believe me, you will be even more happier if you yourself are fulfilling your own dreams and passions, fulfilling your highest potential.
Pursuing our dreams isn't something we even dare to think about in our daily lives. There is too much stress and way too many obligations. One day ends and another starts, and weeks (sometimes months and years) go by without us even noticing that we aren't as happy as we used to be and as we would have liked to be. Most of the time we are slightly depressed, a bit bitter, and we keep on complaining about what we don't have in life.
Have you ever noticed why most of us leave our dreams behind?
Money, work, paying rent, paying bills.... stress, stress and more stress. People get lost in daily responsibilities and forget about their passion, they don't know how to be happy. I keep on hearing people say "Dreaming is for kids, it's silly" or "Dreams are for rich people" or "it's all Hollywood bull#$%". One way or the other "it's not for me" , right??
Nope! Sorry to disappoint you ladies but if you're after a real change in your life then it's time to restart your dreams, learn how to be happy, strip yourselves from this cynical and negative attitude and start reconnecting to the melody of your heart. Why will this help us attract love into our lives? Because when we are happy inside of us, when we are connected to our passions on a daily and weekly basis, we are more positive, we are more energetic, life has more taste to it, we feel lighter, we feel that we have purpose in life. This good energy helps us pull good things into our lives.
When we focus on our passions and do things we've always wanted to do, things start opening up, things start flowing in all dynamics and aspects of life.
How To Be Happy
Dare to say your Dreams and Passions Out Loud.
First stage is to start thinking and writing all the things you wished you could do if you had time, money, space, ability, etc.
Ignore all of the excuses like "I don't have enough time to practice yoga every day", "I'm too old to start dancing", "I don't have enough money to buy myself a piano, maybe next year", "I can't afford a juggling course when I don't have enough money for rent", "I'm not talented enough to draw" – ignore all of these negative and stuck thoughts and just write down all of your dreams and passions on a piece of paper.
Do it for a whole week. Write down any thought that pops up in your head without censoring anything! Let your dreams be (on the paper for a start); Give your dreams a place in your mind and dare to say them out loud.
*Side Note* Just to make things clear... "dreams" don't have to be extravagant or unbelievable to be dreams; they can be really subtle and minor. Maybe you've been wanting to learn how to cook, or maybe how to photograph, or you've always wanted to take a philosophy course, or maybe you have a thing for volunteering, or for pet-walking, or maybe you love traveling and you've always wanted to go camping on the beach. There are millions of things that can spark that excitement in you, that can make your heart sing. Connecting to your dreams and passions is a major 'how to be happy' recipe.
How To Be Happy
Outflow your dreams.
Second stage is choosing one thing from your dream list and start talking about it for a whole week with your friends, colleagues and family. Take it out to the world (in words only). Outflow your dream even if you still think you can't achieve it. For example: "I want to learn the tango dance", "I have to find where I can learn tango", "do you know tango?", "learning to dance tango is one of my dreams", "I get excited whenever I hear a tango song", "I saw a movie about a tango teacher yesterday night…" Etc. Don't be shy; drive everyone crazy about "tango" for a whole week. This stage can cause energy to flow: first, it will release the stuck energy of your dream and by talking about it so many times it will start to feel possible. Secondly it will bring out and accentuate your will to achieve it and most important it will raise the possibility that someone around you knows someone who knows something about learning tango…yes!
How To Be Happy
Get all the details.
If no one around you gives you a link to your dream than it's your game. Start researching where you can do it? How much does it cost? When it is happening? Who is the teacher? Make phone calls, send e mails, do anything to get all the details you need in order to get a full and realistic picture of how your "unattainable dream" (as most people see it) looks in real life. In most cases you'll find out that it is very attainable, much more than what you would have thought. Look for solutions not for problems, if it's too expensive, find a cheaper place or look in forums; ask other people who share the same dream as you how they do it, where and when. Put aside the problems and obstacles and focus on the solutions and answers.
How To Be Happy
Do it now.
Start living your dream for one hour in the week. Go to a tango lesson. Learn to play the guitar. Start learning astrology. Start writing your book. Devote time for your dreams and passions for at-least a few hours in the week. You will be amazed to feel how it changes your life in all aspects.
How To Be Happy
What about love?
Well, I'll tell you my own personal story in order to answer this question :-D
5 years ago (when I was single and pretty unhappy about it) I was sitting with a friend of mine in a coffee shop. I was telling him how curious I was about learning video (filming and editing). He said he doesn't know anything about it but he has a friend who has a friend who is a video clip director. He gave me the phone number of his friend and I called him and introduced myself. I also volunteered to come and help in one of his productions. He said he will call me if he'll need assistance in his next production. Two weeks later I got a phone call from him and he asked if I wanted to volunteer in one of his productions and I of course vehemently said "YES!".
He gave me a few phone numbers and told me to pick up a few people on the day of the production. I woke up at 5:00 AM in the morning (full of excitement!) and drove to pick up part of the production crew. I didn't know anyone, but was very open in meeting new people. By the end of the day, and after so many hours of work, I learned so much about video and filming and met a lot of new and interesting people. I become close to one of the girls on the set (the art designer of the production). We stayed in touch and met up a few days later for coffee. From here to there, she introduced me to my one and only true love, whom I consider my soul mate :-).
So what is the point of my story? If you live your lives fulfilling your passions, doing things that make you feel good as a person, learn things you've always wanted to learn, experiencing things you've always wanted to experience... you will most definitely find true love on the way. The happiness inside of you glows and radiates outside and pulls in good things into your lives. When your heart is open to your own true wishes, true love will be just around the corner.
The secret is to learn how to be happy first with yourself, get closer to your dreams and passions. The minute you get closer to the things you really want to do in your life you will probably meet people who are similar to you, among them, true love, or even a soul mate.
Hey, It worked for me. Big time! The minute I came closer to my dream (which was to learn more about video) I came closer to my soul mate and that's not about being lucky it's only about listening to the melodies of our hearts.
Good luck and be happy,
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