Developing A Positive Attitude

"I'm in the process of developing a positive attitude - it's changing my life!"

Developing a positive attitude is a process; it takes time and patience. A real positive attitude isn't just a trend or something you feel like doing sometimes, it's a lifestyle, it's a state of mind.

I've written a few other articles on this subject, each focusing on different important aspects:

* The Power of Positive Thinking - Unleashing the power of positivity.

* How To Be Happy - Connecting to our passion and dreams.

Throughout this article of developing a positive attitude, I will be focusing on one of the main aspects of this state of mind -

Being the Cause of our life and not an Effect of it

One of the most important aspects of developing a positive attitude is knowing first of all that you are a creator. "Huh? What? Me... a creator?", yes, YOU. Inside all of us is a spark of the creation, if we learn how to light up this spark, we will be able to get closer and closer to creating our own lives the way we want them to be.

There are lots of people out there who have dreams and wishes, but they just sit there and do nothing about it (because they don't really know and/or believe that they really can achieve their dreams!).

Well, let me tell you a very important secret:

'The wrongest thing you can do in life is to do nothing!'

Doing nothing is, by all means, the-most-wrong-thing-to-do! It isn’t effective at all and takes you absolutely nowhere. No movement or energy is being channeled nor transferred to anyplace. This passive mindset of 'doing nothing' can keep you blocked and frozen with the same problems for years (not helping you at all with developing a positive attitude). It is the most unrecognized trap of our generation, so you'd better watch out from it!

I've always been a believer that everyone (dealing with everything in life) should be the initiators of their lives. If you want money go and get it. If you want love, than go and get it. Waiting for someone else to make a move can take ages (if it even happens at all). You have all the strength you need inside of you to pull in anything you want into your lives. This is a fact, not a nice quote. The only thing you have to learn is how to do it! And that's my job, to provide you with tools that will help you with this 'frightening' task of going out into the world and really living the life you've always wanted for yourself.

A very important aspect of life:

Being 'cause' or being 'effect' of our lives – what are the differences?

There are two different points of view for experiencing reality and developing a positive attitude: one is to be an effect of everything that happens to you. For example: "I got fired", "He left me", "He will never go out with me", "I'm a failure", etc. This state of mind is called being an 'effect'. You are an effect of what the other side thinks or does, you are an effect of your surroundings, you aren't taking any responsibility of your own actions and its consequences.

If you're in a state of mind of 'being an effect', this means that you're probably finding reasons and excuses for everything that happens to you and you're blaming someone or something for all the things that are going wrong in your life. This mindset will stop you from developing a positive attitude and doesn't advance you in any way.

Do you want to move forward with your life? Do you want to be part of developing a positive attitude? Do you want to find true love? Yes! Than it's time to be the 'Cause' of of your life!

The other way to look at your life is to understand that you are the reason and cause of many things that happen to you in life!

This is a much more initiative way to experience your every day life. "I find this guy attractive and I'm going to ask him out for a drink" – being the cause of your life means taking full responsibility of everything that happens to you (he might say "yes" and he also might say "no" – no pain, no gain ladies!).

Being the cause of your life and initiating each and every single action in your lives will provide you within time with an unbelievable inner strength and belief that will change your whole perspective about life.

Being cause of your life is a much harder task than being an effect and blaming things around you for whatever happens. I think most people choose to be an effect because it is a much more "convenient viewpoint", isn’t it?

Ladies, the secret lies in our own heads and hearts. It's not an easy task, I know, but if you really want to make a change - start right now! You don't have to completely turn your life around in an hour, change takes time; developing a positive attitude and being Cause of your life is a process.

Try starting with only one aspect in your life. Choose something that you've been having difficulty with and start changing your viewpoint about it. Instead of saying to yourself "I'm a failure, I can't find love", change it to "I have the power to succeed! I need to really believe and give it a try!".

Do all that you can do towards this goal or dream. You first need to believe that you can achieve your dream before really achieving it. If you don't ever believe it and have faith in it, it will never come around.

Try to imagine your faith as a bowl. The smaller the bowl is, the less you can put in it. The bigger the bowl is, the more you can put in it! For example, it's lunchtime and you want a salad. You know that you have a salad bowl and that's where you'll cut up all the vegetables and put your salad, right? Well it's sounds really simple, but it's pretty much the same for almost anything (just a little more abstract). Let's say you want to find true love, you're going to have to create an abstract bowl inside of you to really contain this dream. The bigger this 'bowl' or 'container' will be, the more room you have to really contain this dream. This 'bowl' is actually how much you really believe it and want it, the more you want it, the more you believe it, the more potential it will really happen!

Now, after we've decided to take our lives in our hands, after we've decided that we can create our reality and be cause of our life, start step by step in the direction of your heart's desire (this will help you in the path to developing a positive attitude). Read my article about "Connecting To My Dreams and Passions", learn to embrace your wishes and desires and make them become reality!

Good luck, stay Cause, stay Positive,

Coach Mili